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Monday, 10 September 2012

A Letter To My 16 Year Old Self

Dear me,

I know you feel like you don't fit in right now, most teenagers feel the same,  That feeling of being on the outside looking in will never ever leave you, but as you get older that desire to be on the inside with everyone else will fade.  Your differences are what makes you, 'you' and the people that really matter in your life will love you for that.  Do not change for anyone.

Bullies don't matter, no-one has the power to make you feel bad about yourself, except yourself.  The bullies are not restricted to school or childhood.  You will have the pleasure of meeting several childish vacuous individuals during your life, but you don't have to make them part of it.

You will find love, many different kinds and all in different and interesting places.  Your children will mean the world to you and prove to you just how strong you can be.

You will learn which bridges to cross and which to burn.  Don't let the past haunt you, it's in the past.  You will make many bad choices, but that is all they were, bad choices.  Learn from them and move on, do not give them the power to stop you living your life.  Chances are the only one still thinking about it, is you.

Above all, you *can* do it.  Ignore anyone who dares to say otherwise.


The happy self you never thought you'd have.

If you have written a letter to a younger self, please link up and share.


  1. So true, think I have met more bullies as an adult that a kid.

    1. There is wonderful verse in a song I play my children, called Goodnight Demon Slayer about battling the monsters in your dreams.

      'The monsters are real, but they're not in your dreams. Learn what you can from the beasts you defeat, you'll need it for some of the people you'll meet.'

  2. I think we judge ourselves too harshly sometimes.Always be true to yourself and don't change for the sake of changing for others.

    1. Very true. Such a shame it takes so long for us to truly understand this.

  3. Oh that was lovely. It's a difficult age as we're starting out on another new journey and have already been on so many in a matter of a few years.

    So glad to read that you're happy.
    CJ x

    1. Thank you. I think for years I was searching for the wrong sort of happy. The OMG I'm so happy I could burst kind. But now I have that far more satifying, comfortable in my own skin happy. A much betyter happy if you ask me.

  4. That is just wonderful! I will do one too. It may take me a few weeks though

  5. Great post, especially the bit about knowing which bridges to burn and which to cross. I have linked my post up.


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